The wise man wrote, “A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her who bore him” (Proverbs 17:25). Indeed, there is no more poignant truth in the entire world for a parent than this. Time and again, I have witnessed the great pain a son who behaves foolishly has brought to his parents. Sometimes, a selfish teenage boy is responsible for such pain. Other times, it is the behavior of a full-grown man. Regardless, every parent and son should take these words of wisdom to heart.

I have personally seen a man cry for his son as he prayed that my own son would never bring the pain his had. I have heard a man mournfully speak of a child who has departed from God’s way. I have listened as faithful parents ask themselves where they have gone wrong. I have watched as parents argue with a son who will not heed wisdom or receive instruction. I have witnessed parents unwittingly rescue a son as he lied to avoid trouble. I have felt the pain a parent feels when his child does wrong. I even know what it is to be the foolish son.

Nevertheless, even more painful to witness is the son who does not realize the grief and bitterness he burdens his parents with, or who just doesn’t seem to care. If only the foolish son could hear the ardent prayers of his desperate parents as they ask for wisdom to help him. If only the foolish son could see every tear shed on account of his actions. If only the foolish son could feel the pain he brings to his parents in his very own heart. If only the foolish son knew what his parents would give to see him on the straight and narrow path.

Hopefully, these words will help some foolish son to realize that with every passing sinful pleasure he engages in, he brings grief to his father and bitterness to his mother. Are drinking, alcoholism, drug abuse, homosexuality, stealing, lying, or gambling worth the price your parent’s pay? Though you may not realize it, every time you play the fool, your parent’s pay the price! Thus, rather than hurt your father and mother, honor them. This is, “the first commandment with promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth” (Ephesians 6:2-3).